What exactly makes someone a good listener?? Is it the attentiveness of the eyes? Their body languages that gestures that they are considering your thoughts? No. It is simply their response. Responses jusitfy understanding. You see what you are saying in another person's eyes. In general, it distinguishes the hearers from the listeners.
I was speaking to a friend and found that she wasn't listening to me..the hard way. She stared deeply into my eyes, nodding her head, but when I asked her a question, she stared at me aimlessly. Being a good listener bears just as much weight as being a good friend. They are both held in high regard because they make each other what they are. But there's a catch, it takes one to be one. If you want someone to be a good listener to you, then you have to have the courtesy to be a good listener yourself. Many people expect to be listened to but cannot enjoy that privilege because it requires them to rectify their own ways. Words spoken are like a privilege, and not everyone is selected to receive them. They are said to a selective few in the hopes that they will value these thoughts from the speaker. In my case, my thoughts weren't valued, they were ignored. So consider this reader, are your thoughts in good hands?
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